A Week of Self-Love Rituals (Lola Montez Challenge)
, A Week of Self-Love Rituals (Lola Montez Challenge) Welcome to the Lola Montez Self-Love Challenge — 7 days and 7 rituals, all designed to bring you back home to you. We live in a world that teaches us to hustle, shrink, and apologize. But this week, we do things differently. We slow down, tune […]
What Straight Women Can Learn About Sex, Love, and Life from Gay Men
norWhat Straight Women Can Learn About Sex, Love, and Life from Gay Men (Hint: Everything) Let’s be honest: if gay men ran the world, there would be less war, more wine, and no such thing as a bad selfie angle. But more importantly, straight women would be thriving. Thriving in their relationships, their bedrooms, and […]
Exploring Polyamory
Exploring Polyamory: The Many Ways to Love and Connect Exploring Polyamory: The Many Ways to Love and Connect I don’t often miss the good old days. I do sometimes wonder if we are not pushing the envelope so far that it’s going to swing back and smack us in the face. In the old days – […]
Sexual Health Matters
Sexual Health Matters: How Body, Mind, and Relationships Flourish When We Break the Stigma I have recently had the misfortune of spending some time visiting a friend in hospital and considering my health and those around me. When we think about health, we think of diet, exercise, heart function, or mental wellbeing. Rarely does sexual […]
What are men thinking?
What are Men Thinking: Inside His Dirty Little Mind! Once upon a pre-pandemic time, Lola Montez hosted what can only be described as the Olympics of oversharing. Five very brave men (ages ranging from “still living on ramen” to “I need to stretch before I sneeze”) were invited to answer women’s burning questions about sex, […]
Restoring Intimacy in your Relationship
Restoring Intimacy in your Relationship I’ve been thinking about intimacy and what it means in relationships. My most intimate interactions have been with people I’ve loved but not necessarily with my primary partner. These interactions have not been sexual in any way. I often wonder what that says about me. Intimacy is a fundamental human […]
How to Introduce Toys into the Bedroom
How to Introduce Toys into the Bedroom Without Making It Awkward Let’s be real: suggesting a sex toy in bed can feel like suggesting pineapple on pizza, controversial, misunderstood, and, if done wrong, it might kill the vibe. But here’s the truth: sex toys aren’t a replacement, they’re a revelation. Used right, they can spice […]
Flavour Meets Intimate Wellness
Flavour Meets Intimate Wellness: The Science of Safe Bedroom Indulgence Flavour meets intimate wellness and adds undeniable excitement to intimacy. From oral play to body toppings, engaging your sense of taste can transform a routine evening into a sensory celebration. However, many couples overlook a critical factor: your intimate areas require strict biological care. Many […]
Heteropessimism: Why So Many Women Are Giving Up on Men
Heteropessimism: Why So Many Women Are Giving Up on Men My best friend and I caught up recently. She’s been looking for love and I think I’ve found it, but we both have the same rally cry. “I’m just tired.” It’s a sentiment that comes up again and again when women talk about dating men […]
The Rise of Celibacy and Sex Breaks
The Rise of Celibacy and Sex Breaks: A Rebellion Against Hookup Culture or a Path to Emotional Self-Care? Many of us live in an era where sexual freedom is often equated with personal liberation. From dating apps that promise instant intimacy to social media feeds filled with stories of sex-positivity. The message seems clear: more […]