Are Relationships Supposed to Be Hard?
Are Relationships Supposed to Be Hard? The Unfiltered Truth (and Why It’s Worth It!) Let’s face it. We’ve all had those moments in a relationship where you throw your hands up and think, “This is hard!” Maybe it’s a recurring argument, a period of disconnect, or just the sheer effort of navigating two lives intertwined. […]
The Silent Climax: Why We Need to Stop Apologizing for the Orgasm That Didn’t Happen
The Silent Climax: Why We Need to Stop Apologizing for the Orgasm That Didn’t Happen Over the last few months, during quiet, unfiltered conversations with clients at Lola Montez, a recurring, heartbreaking theme has emerged. It doesn’t matter if the person talking to me is a high-powered 40-something corporate executive or a newlywed in her […]
Are Relationships Transactional?
Are Relationships Transactional? Unpacking the Give & Take of Connection In a world often driven by exchange and quid pro quo, it’s natural to wonder: Are relationships transactional? Do we give to receive? Is love just a series of unspoken contracts? At Lola Montez, we’re all about exploring the depths of connection and pleasure, and […]
Are Relationships Declining?
Are Relationships Declining? Unpacking the Shifting Landscape of Love It’s a question that often pops up in conversations, on social media, and perhaps even in our own minds: Are relationships declining? With marriage rates shifting, cohabitation on the rise, and more people embracing singlehood, it might seem like the traditional idea of a long-term partnership […]
Are Relationships Fading?
Are Relationships Fading? What’s Really Changing in Love We often hear talk about love and partnerships changing. Maybe you’ve wondered: Are old-style relationships going away? When we look at how people live now – fewer marriages, more couples just living together (like me), and more people staying single – it might seem like long-term love […]
How to Set Rules for a Relationship Break
How to Set Rules for a Relationship Break (Without Breaking Up) Let’s be honest: when someone says “We need a break,” it can feel like a prelude to heartbreak. But it doesn’t have to be. A relationship break can be a transformative time, a chance to breathe, reflect, and come back stronger… if you do it […]
What to Do During a Relationship Break
What to Do During a Relationship Break (Other Than Panic) So… you’re on a break. Maybe it was your idea or it wasn’t. Either way, the silence feels deafening, your phone suddenly feels too quiet, and your overthinking brain is having the time of its life. First things first: breathe. Relationship breaks aren’t death sentences […]
The Self-Love Survival Kit (Lola Montez Edition)
The Self-Love Survival Kit (Lola Montez Edition) Let’s get one thing straight: Self-love is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. In a world that keeps demanding more, faster, louder, better, pausing to honour yourself is a rebellious act. And whether you’re navigating heartbreak, burnout, body insecurities, or just the general chaos of modern life, you […]
A Week of Self-Love Rituals (Lola Montez Challenge)
, A Week of Self-Love Rituals (Lola Montez Challenge) Welcome to the Lola Montez Self-Love Challenge — 7 days and 7 rituals, all designed to bring you back home to you. We live in a world that teaches us to hustle, shrink, and apologize. But this week, we do things differently. We slow down, tune […]
What Straight Women Can Learn About Sex, Love, and Life from Gay Men
norWhat Straight Women Can Learn About Sex, Love, and Life from Gay Men (Hint: Everything) Let’s be honest: if gay men ran the world, there would be less war, more wine, and no such thing as a bad selfie angle. But more importantly, straight women would be thriving. Thriving in their relationships, their bedrooms, and […]