38 In-Depth Questions to Learn More About Your Partner
38 In-Depth Questions to Learn More About Your Partner: Spark Deeper Connection Tonight How well do you really know your partner? We don’t mean their favorite food. We mean their deepest fears, wildest dreams, and unspoken desires. In long-term relationships, it is easy to fall into a routine. We talk about grocery lists and discuss […]
The Caveman Myth: Why Men Want Way More
The Caveman Myth: Why Men Want Way More Than Just the Bedroom. Originally Published In: IOL.co.za & Independent Media The Core Insight: “For decades, relationship gurus, sitcom writers, and well-meaning magazine columns have hammered home the same unshakeable piece of conventional wisdom: men are simple, single-engine machines driven entirely by visual impulse. The reality is […]
Elna McIntosh, the loss of a giant
Elna McIntosh, the loss of a giant This week my industry lost a giant. Dr. Elna McIntosh was one of South Africa’s most prominent and respected clinical sexologists, sexual health activists, and media personalities. Over a career spanning more than three decades, she played a foundational role in de-stigmatizing sexual health and improving clinical access […]
Lola Montez Safe Play Checklist
Lola Montez Safe Play Checklist Your pleasure. Your power. Your safety. Whether you’re flying solo or enjoying partnered play, follow this quick checklist to keep your experience clean, safe, and UTI-free. 💧 Before You Play Wash your hands with warm water and soap. Clean your toy with an antibacterial toy cleaner or mild unscented soap. […]
How to Store Adult Toys Safely
How to Store Adult Toys Safely Away from Kids Because pleasure shouldn’t come with panic. Let’s face it: if you’re a parent, privacy can feel like a luxury and finding a place to safely store your adult toys might feel like navigating a landmine. At Lola Montez, we believe sexual wellness is part of a […]
Adult Toys for Menopausal Low Libido
Rekindling Desire: Adult Toys for Menopausal Low Libido Menopause is a natural, powerful transition, but let’s be honest: it can throw your sex life a bit off balance. For many women and people with vulvas, the drop in estrogen during perimenopause and menopause brings a host of changes—vaginal dryness, discomfort during sex, changes in body […]
Toy Recommendations for Menopausal Low Libido
Toy Recommendations for Menopausal Low Libido We’ve handpicked a few favourites available at Lola Montez: 🌸 Lelo Lily Velvety-soft, rumbly clitoral vibrator Perfect for rediscovering sensation slowly Rechargeable and whisper-quiet 💨 Womanizer Next Gentle air suction mimics oral sex Completely silent! No direct contact, ideal for sensitive vulvas Can help build arousal even when desire […]
Are Relationships Worth It?
Are Relationships Worth It? Let’s Get Real (and a Little Spicy!) Ah, relationships. The beautiful, messy, exhilarating, and sometimes utterly baffling dance of two (or more!) souls. We’ve all been there, mid-argument about who left the toilet seat up, or scrolling through endless dating apps, wondering: “Is this really worth it?” At Lola Montez, we’re […]
How Lola Montez Was Built
From a Pink Suitcase to a Luxury Empire: How Lola Montez Was Built (Despite Everyone’s Best Efforts) In the early 2000s, the phrase “adult store” conjured a very specific image: flickering neon signs, windowless basements, sticky carpets, and the faint sense that you might need to explain yourself to someone if you were seen entering […]
Are Relationships Supposed to Be Easy?
Are Relationships Supposed to Be Easy? Let’s Unpack That! We’ve all seen the movies. The meet-cute, the instant spark, the effortless connection, and then… happily ever after. Social media feeds are often curated to show only the sunniest, most seamless moments of coupledom. It’s easy to look at these snapshots and wonder, “Wait, are relationships […]