When Your Partner Chooses Masturbation
When Your Partner Chooses Masturbation Over Intimacy: How to Navigate the Conversation and Rebuild Connection Relationships are built on many pillars, trust, companionship, communication, and intimacy. When one of those pillars weakens, the whole structure feels shaky. Intimacy, in particular, is a deeply sensitive area. For many couples, it’s not just about sex; it’s about […]
Can a Relationship Survive Cheating?
Can a Relationship Survive Cheating? Let’s be honest: cheating is one of the most painful betrayals in a relationship. Whether it was a one-time slip or a long-term affair, discovering infidelity can feel like your world has just been turned inside out. The trust is broken, the intimacy feels tainted, and suddenly the person you […]
Intimate Hydration is the Foundation of Pelvic Floor Health
The Hidden Connection: Why Intimate Hydration is the Foundation of Pelvic Floor Health When we think about pelvic floor health, the conversation almost always gravitates toward exercise. We are told to do our core workouts, practice our Pilates pull-ins, and remember our daily contractions. We treat the pelvic floor like a gym muscle, something that […]
Can Relationships Recover from a Break?
Can Relationships Recover from a Break? I’ve been cleaning out my filing cabinet and came across my divorce papers. I was overwhelmed by the same pain I experienced when it was happening. My ex and I have moved way past those horrible days and now remain firm friends. I now have a wonderful partner who […]
Anatomy of Comfort: Why pH Balance
The Anatomy of Comfort: Why pH Balance is the Ultimate “Necessary Truth” in Intimate Wellness When it comes to sexual health and self-care, the spotlight is often stolen by aesthetics, flavours, and sensations. We look for luxury packaging, intoxicating aromas, and premium textures. But at Lola Montez, we believe true luxury cannot exist without absolute […]
Adult Toys for ADHD
Adult Toys for ADHD: Exploring Focus, Sensation, and Self-Discovery When we talk about ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), the conversation often centres around school performance, executive function, or hyperactivity. But there’s an equally important, yet often ignored, facet: how ADHD impacts intimacy, pleasure, and sexual wellbeing. At Lola Montez, we believe that pleasure is a […]
9 Things you should know about Pregnancy and Sex
9 Things you should know about Pregnancy and Sex I ran a check online to see what was being asked about sex to make sure that I remain relevant. Besides the questions about sex parties and porn the next category that came out tops was about sex and pregnancy. So here it is: Is It […]
Keep the Conversation Going in a Relationship
Why It’s Important to Keep the Conversation Going in a Relationship In the early days of any relationship, conversation flows like champagne, effervescent, exciting, and endless. You stay up all night talking, ask each other deep and silly questions, and hang on every word. But fast forward a few years, and life starts to get […]
38 In-Depth Questions to Learn More About Your Partner
38 In-Depth Questions to Learn More About Your Partner To help you along the way, here’s a curated list of 38 meaningful questions to spark connection, deepen understanding, and reignite curiosity: What’s one thing you wish people understood better about you? When do you feel most loved by me? What’s a childhood memory that shaped […]
State of the Adult Industry in South Africa
The State of the Adult Industry in South Africa: A Market Under Pressure I founded Lola Montez South Africa in 2004. It was the first of its kind. An adult store that was more boutique than store that made it safe for women to shop. It was a place where couples could get real advice […]