The Menopause Sex Gap
The Menopause Sex Gap: Why My Libido Went on Permanent Sabbatical (And How I’m Luring It Back) Let’s talk about the “Gap.” No, I’m not talking about the ever-widening distance between my current waistline and my favourite pair of Levi’s. I’m talking about the Menopause Sex Gap, that mysterious, frustrating phenomenon where your desire for […]
Living Apart Together
Living Apart Together: Why Love Doesn’t Always Need a Shared Address For generations, love followed a predictable script: we meet, we date, we move in together, we marry, we merge our lives and our wardrobes into one shared cupboard. Actually, in my house he had half a cupboard and I had four. Equality is important […]
Why South Africa Needs a New Language for Consent
Beyond “No Means No”: Why South Africa Needs a New Language for Consent In my previous column, we explored the importance of anatomical honesty, calling a penis a penis and a vulva a vulva to strip away the shame that leads to silence. But once we have the vocabulary, what do we do with the […]
Why a Penis isn’t a “Machine Gun”
Why a Penis isn’t a “Machine Gun”: The Case for Anatomical Honesty In the average South African household, we have no problem teaching a toddler the word for their elbow, their chin, or their pinky finger. We don’t tell children their fingers are “feely-wheelies” or their toes are “wiggly-pigs.” We give them the gift of […]
Small Shifts, Big Love
Small Shifts, Big Love: Seven More Tiny Changes That Strengthen Your Relationship Last week, I wrote about how small, intentional changes can quietly transform a relationship over time. Not the dramatic, movie-worthy gestures but the everyday moments that build emotional safety, trust, and intimacy. One of the simplest practices I shared was the 60-second check-in: […]
Swipe Right for Sex? Whatever Happened to Saying No?
Swipe Right for Sex? Whatever Happened to Saying No? Someone recently asked me how I come up with a new topic every week. The truth is simple; I write about what’s happening around me. Sometimes it’s something I overhear, something in the news, or a conversation that sparks a thought I can’t shake off. This […]
Five Red Flags That Your Partner May Be Cheating
Five Red Flags That Your Partner May Be Cheating — and How to Protect Your Relationship Trust is the heartbeat of every relationship. When it starts to falter, your whole emotional rhythm goes off-key. Here’s how to recognise the early signs of infidelity and how to rebuild the connection before it’s too late. It’s a […]
Is co-dependency based on the fear of Intimacy
Is co-dependency based on the fear of Intimacy I’ve recently noticed that I might be a people pleaser. I’ll deny it if you quote me because mostly, I can hide it under a veneer of I don’t care! Co-dependency is a pattern of behaviour where a person’s sense of worth and identity becomes tied to […]
Paint the Town Red: How History, Healing, and Intimacy Meet in a Tube of Lipstick
Paint the Town Red: How History, Healing, and Intimacy Meet in a Tube of Lipstick Paint the Town Red. Lipstick is far more than a simple beauty product. In fact, it serves as a powerful symbol of self-expression, resilience, and personal empowerment throughout human history. From ancient civilizations to modern routines, lip color continuously transforms […]
Finding the G-Spot: A Treasure Hunt
Finding the G-Spot: A Treasure Hunt with No Map (and Plenty of Fun) My favourite Dad joke at the moment is – Do you know where the G-Spot is? It can be found between F and H! This one little spot caused so much confusion, curiosity, and (let’s be honest) unnecessary performance pressure for women […]