Toy Recommendations for Menopausal Low Libido
We’ve handpicked a few favourites available at Lola Montez:
🌸 Lelo Lily
- Velvety-soft, rumbly clitoral vibrator
- Perfect for rediscovering sensation slowly
- Rechargeable and whisper-quiet
💨 Womanizer Next
- Gentle air suction mimics oral sex
- Completely silent!
- No direct contact, ideal for sensitive vulvas
- Can help build arousal even when desire feels low
Rocks-Off Oriel Rechargeable Wand
- Discrete size, maximum power
- 10 highly powerful vibration and pulsation levels
- Flexible head for precision stimulation
- 100% fully waterproof
🌀 Le Wand Petite
- A smaller version of the iconic wand
- Broad stimulation for external massage and blood flow
- Great for foreplay or solo self-care rituals
🌺 Femmefit or Kegel Balls
- Strengthens pelvic floor for better orgasms
- Gentle, progressive resistance
- Great for rebuilding vaginal tone and sexual confidence
Creating a Pleasure Ritual
Sometimes the hardest part of low libido is getting started. Here’s how to create a sensual, pressure-free pleasure routine:
- Set the mood just for you – Light candles, play music, wear soft fabrics. Make it a ritual, not a performance.
- Start with non-sexual touch – Massage your arms, neck, belly. Use scented oils or soft brushes to reawaken sensation.
- Introduce your toy gently – No pressure to orgasm. Just breathe, explore, feel. Let your body lead.
- Use lube—generously – Menopausal dryness is common. A good lube makes everything feel better, even with non-penetrative play.
- Keep it consistent – The more regularly you engage your sensual self, the more natural it becomes to access desire again.
What If I Still Don’t Feel “In the Mood”?
That’s okay. You don’t have to want sex to enjoy sensual touch. Pleasure doesn’t have to lead to orgasm. It can simply be a moment of connection, self-soothing, or curiosity.
Sometimes, arousal follows action. So don’t wait for the mood to strike—gently invite it in.
And remember: you are allowed to feel sexy, powerful, and turned on at any age. Not for anyone else—just for you.
Final Thoughts from Lola Montez
Menopause may mark the end of one hormonal chapter, but it is not the end of your pleasure story.
Your body is still yours. Your desire is still alive—it may just be quieter, deeper, slower. And that’s beautiful.
With the right support, the right mindset, and a toy (or two) that makes you feel safe and seen, you can rekindle intimacy with yourself and your partner(s). Not by chasing what was—but by embracing what is.
Welcome to your sensual second act. We’re here for every beat of it.
Explore our curated “Menopause & Pleasure” collection at Lola Montez online or in-store. Body-safe, hormone-friendly, and always judgment-free.