The Self-Love Survival Kit (Lola Montez Edition)
Let’s get one thing straight: Self-love is not a luxury, it’s a necessity.
In a world that keeps demanding more, faster, louder, better, pausing to honour yourself is a rebellious act. And whether you’re navigating heartbreak, burnout, body insecurities, or just the general chaos of modern life, you deserve to come home to yourself.
Enter the Self-Love Survival Kit,
Not a bubble bath cliché (although, yes, we love a soak), but a full-body, full-soul reminder that you are enough. Right now. As you are.
Ready to build yours? Let’s unpack it, Lola Montez style, sexy, soulful, and unapologetically real.
Why You Need a Self-Love Survival Kit
Because let’s be honest: we’ve all had days where we feel like a crumpled receipt at the bottom of life’s handbag. Maybe someone ghosted you or your boss forgot you exist. Maybe you looked in the mirror and didn’t like what you saw.
That’s exactly when you need a ritual, not just a reaction.
The Self-Love Survival Kit is your emotional first aid, your pleasure toolbox, your reminder that you are your own best thing. It’s a mix of mindset, movement, and a few sensual surprises that bring you back to your power.
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A Mirror That Sees the Real You
Let’s start here: how do you talk to yourself?
Self-love begins with self-talk. If your inner dialogue is crueler than a YouTube comment section, it’s time for a reset. Your kit needs affirmations, written, whispered, shouted from the rooftops if you must.
Lola Montez Recommends:
- Stick empowering notes on your mirror: “You are divine.” “You are allowed to take up space.” “You are not hard to love.”
- Practice “mirror gazing.” Stand in front of the mirror for 2 minutes a day. Look into your own eyes and say, “I’m learning to love you.”
It might feel silly at first. Do it anyway. You’re not waiting to feel confident, you’re creating confidence.
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A Pleasure Practice (Just for You)
Repeat after us: Self-love is also self-pleasure.
Not because it’s sexy (although it is), but because it’s healing. Touch reconnects you with your body, especially after a breakup, trauma, or long stretch of disconnection. You don’t need anyone’s permission to feel good or good enough.
Lola Montez Recommends:
- Solo Play Tools: Try a silky vibrator, a warming gel, or our bestselling Unihorn if you’re feeling whimsical and wild.
- Sensual Mapping: Use your fingers to gently explore your own body. No rush, no agenda. Just presence. Where do you like to be touched? How do you respond to rhythm? To pressure?
Your body isn’t just a vessel, it’s a universe. Learn its language.
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A Soundtrack for Your Soul
Music is medicine. Your self-love survival kit needs a playlist that reflects every version of you — soft, angry, sexy, victorious.
Lola Montez’s Self-Love Playlist Picks:
- “Feeling Myself” – Nicki Minaj ft. Beyoncé
- “Good as Hell” – Lizzo
- “Dog Days Are Over” – Florence + The Machine
- “Stand by Me” – Florence Welch cover
- “Golden” – Jill Scott
- “Unwritten” – Natasha Bedingfield (yes, still iconic)
Blast it. Dance it out. Cry if you need to. Let your body feel.
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A Sensual Object (or Three)
Self-love is tactile. What makes you feel held? What brings your senses to life?
Your kit should include items that awaken your skin, spark pleasure, and create beauty around you.
Lola Montez Recommends:
- A soft, weighted blanket or velvet robe
- A luxury body oil or candle you only use on “me days”
- Silk eye mask and cooling jade roller
- A toy that brings you to the edge and back
Choose items that make you feel delicious. Because you are.
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Boundaries Like a Boss
Listen closely: You can’t love yourself if you keep betraying yourself to please others.
A Self-Love Survival Kit isn’t just about pampering, it’s about protecting. Boundaries are how you show yourself respect.
In Your Kit, Include:
- A script for saying “No” without guilt
- A list of people, places, or habits that drain you
- A reminder: “I do not owe anyone access to me”
Boundaries are the locks on the doors to your peace. Use them.
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A Self-Soothing Ritual
When the anxiety hits, when the tears come, what’s your go-to? Your kit needs a comfort strategy that doesn’t rely on another person.
Lola Montez’s Soothing Favourites:
- Warm tea in your favourite mug
- A weighted eye pillow
- Five deep breaths while holding your heart
- The “5-4-3-2-1” grounding method (name 5 things you see, 4 you can touch, etc.)
You’re not “too sensitive.” You’re human. So be tender with yourself.
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A Journal That Doesn’t Judge
Your thoughts deserve space and your feelings deserve a voice. Journaling isn’t just about documenting life; it’s about decoding your inner world.
Prompts to Include:
- “Today, I honour myself by…”
- “Things I’ve survived that I didn’t think I could:”
- “What does my ideal love feel like?”
- “How do I want to be loved — by others and by myself?”
Your truth is sacred. Let it spill onto the page.
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A Permission Slip
Let this be loud and clear: You are allowed.
- To rest without guilt
- To feel sexy on your own terms
- To grieve what didn’t work out
- To change your mind
- To want more
- To start again
Write yourself a permission slip and put it in your kit. Read it when you forget.
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Something That Makes You Laugh (or Moan)
Self-love means pleasure not just the sensual kind, but the silly kind too. Your kit should include something that sparks joy, makes you giggle, or makes your toes curl.
Lola Montez Recommends:
- A naughty romance novel
- A playlist of guilty-pleasure comedies
- A voice note from your best friend
- That vibrator you swore was “too powerful” but secretly love
- A memory that makes you laugh until your belly hurts
Laughter is pleasure. And pleasure is sacred.
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A Reminder: You Are Your Own Home
Your final and most important tool?
A reminder that you are whole. That love doesn’t just come from outside. That even when your world feels shaky, you are steady. Even when you feel forgotten, you are worthy. Even when you feel messy, you are still magical.
Tape this to your mirror, tuck it in your purse, whisper it to yourself on the hard days:
“I am not hard to love. I am learning to love myself wildly, fully, and without apology.”
Final Word from Lola Montez
Your Self-Love Survival Kit is not a one-time thing. It’s a living, breathing collection of tools, toys, thoughts, and truths that evolve with you. It’s part ritual, part rebellion. It says: “Even when the world forgets me, I will remember myself.”
And remember: Self-love isn’t selfish. It’s sacred, sexy and yours.
If you’re looking for the perfect starting point, a sensual candle, a soft toy, or a pleasure product that whispers “you deserve this”, come visit us at Lola Montez. We’ll help you build your kit, and yourself, from the inside out.
Because darling, you are not just worth loving, you are worth celebrating.