Communication and intimacy
Communication and Intimacy Communication and intimacy- We keep getting told that the secret to a great relationship is Communication! It’s something we are notoriously bad at. Nobody teaches how to do this vital life skill. I’ve watched my kids in the back of the car, texting each other rather than talking. Having a real conversation […]
Kegels and when to STOP
Kegels and when to STOP Kegels and when to STOP – For years I’ve been advocating doing kegel exercises and using Benwa Balls. The reason? As we get older our pelvic floor starts to weaken, just like your jowls, all the muscles in your body start to lose mass and firmness. In men and women […]
Loss of Libido and Menopause
Loss of Libido and Menopause Loss of Libido and Menopause – Loss of libido is a common symptom during menopause due to hormonal changes, particularly the decline in estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels. While this can affect desire and sexual pleasure, there are several strategies you can try to help combat this symptom and restore […]
Five Languages of Sex
Five Languages of Sex Five Languages of Sex – We’ve all heard about the five languages of love, and I hope by now you’ve worked it out and told your partner. Mine is definitely service and my partner’s is touch but did you know there are five sex languages? You will probably prefer one or […]
My Sex Journey
My Sex Journey My sexual journey is just that, a journey. It has changed as I have gotten older and wiser. I lost my virginity when I was 20. Don’t you just love the language of sex? I lost it, as if it fell out of my pocket, never to be found again. I am […]
Health Issues and Sex
Health Issues and Sex We often hear that sex is good for you and it is. It’s not just about procreation as some would have us believe. It is also about so much more. It’s about connection, intimacy, pleasure and health. 200 orgasms a year will also make you look about 4 years younger! It […]
Lubricants are not all equal
Lubricants are not all equal Lubricants are not all equal. When I was first married there was only one kind of lubricant available. It obviously wasn’t sold as a lubricant because that would have been too risky and embarrassing to buy. Considered a medical aid for suppositories and the like. Thick in substance and went […]
Channel Africa interview with Sharon Gordon
Channel Africa Interview with Sharon Gordon as a result of an article published in the Saturday Star – see the links and article below Read the original article here – https://iol.co.za/saturday-star/opinion/2026-01-16-seven-tiny-relationship-shifts-that-matter-more-than-grand-gestures/ Why does power taste like cream soda? Sexologist and Relationship Coach Sharon Gordon @SASexpert unpacks the metaphor and what it reveals in this snippet of […]
The Origin of Lola Montez
From a Pink Suitcase to a Luxury Brand: The Origin of Lola Montez In the landscape of the early 2000s, the “adult store” was a place of neon lights, windowless basements, and a palpable sense of unease. For many women, these spaces felt transactional at best and predatory at worst. Sharon Gordon saw this not […]
Rebellion and Romance of Lola Montez
More Than a Name: The Rebellion and Romance of Lola Montez When people walked into a Lola Montez boutique or visit our online store, they often ask: Who was she? The name wasn’t chosen because it sounded “vintage” or “chic.” It was chosen because Lola Montez was a woman who lived without permission. In a […]