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All about Bondage

All About Bondage 

It may surprise you to discover that power and pain can also play a role in pleasure. 

All about Bondage. Bondage or BDSM has become the catch phrase for a subculture. It is the practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation.

A partner may be physically restrained in a variety of ways, including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape, or self-adhering bandages. We have a variety of accessories available, take a minute to check them out here.

Who’s doing it?

Even though it might sound kinky and wild, many couples utilize playfully rough erotic acts in their own bedrooms.

These days sex play that casts one partner in the dominant role and the other in the submissive role (even if they switch off) is referred to as BDSM.

BDSM is an acronym for sexual activity that incorporates bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, and masochism— and it may be more common than you think.

The Stats on Kinky Play!

  • According to research from the Kinsey Institute, 55 percent of females and 50 percent of males derive sexual pleasure from pain (such as having lovers bite them).
  • And, according to the Durex 2005 Global Sex Survey, 20 percent of people report engaging in “kinky play” with their partners, including the use of blindfolds, bondage, and masks.
  • I think those numbers have escalated recently with the help of television programmes and movies.

Many people find that BDSM is a normal and healthy way to explore their sexuality.

Dominant or Submissive or Switch?

In BDSM behaviors, the individual is deriving pleasure from pain, or pleasure from being completely dominated or completely dominant.

The fact that people would enjoy these activities is easy to understand when you study how the brain works:

The pain and pleasure centers of the brain are very closely related, and so there are times when it really does “hurt so good.”

It’s also easy to understand why people enjoy playing with roles involving power in the bedroom. Often, who we are outside the bedroom is the opposite of who we want to be inside the bedroom.

While this is not always the case, it may be the case at least some of the time.

Being dominated and out of control can feel very sexy, especially if you are someone who is typically in control and juggling many responsibilities at once. It can be very freeing and erotic to simply relinquish those responsibilities and tap into your sexual side without any guilt or pressure.

Alternately, someone who is very submissive and passive outside the bedroom might find it very erotic to be controlling and dominant in the bedroom.

Some say that the power lies in being the submissive because the safe word can be called at any time.

Explore your likes and limits.

Sexuality is complicated and unique, and our needs and desires are ever-changing. This is why exploring and experimenting is so important.

If you want to experiment with BDSM, the first thing to do is establish some ground rules with your partner.

It’s easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and lose touch with whether your partner is truly enjoying the pain and domination or wants you to stop.

Safe Words

Create a “safe word” that will be an unmistakable signal that you want the session to stop immediately.

Make sure it’s not a word that might be confused in the heat of the moment —such as moaning the word “stop” or “no,” which can be mistaken for part of the role-play.

Instead, use a completely benign word like “horse,” “carpet,” or something to that effect.

Once you have established your safe word, you both are now free to fantasize and let your minds run wild.

You need to have a discussion with your partner before you begin play. If your imagination doesn’t stretch that far download our Bondage Contract and discuss the contents.

Here are a couple of suggestions to help you along.

  • What types of BDSM behaviors appeal to you and your partner?
  • Do you like the idea of him tying you up. Or do you want him to spank you or bite you?
  • Do you want to play the role of a sex slave.  Have your partner speak harshly to you. Or put a collar and leash on you?
  • Would nipple clips turn you on?
  • Brainstorm together and discuss which behaviors are absolutely off-limits. How you will determine who is in charge and who is submissive.
  • Take turns and be creative…as long as you are being safe and careful, it’s all fantasy and all fun!

Bondage flirts with limits and legality so make sure that you have clear, unequivocal, verbal consent. Read our blog on CONSENT.

Everything you do must be safe, sane and did I mention consensual.

 

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