A Guide to Exploring Toys for Women-Seeking-Women:
Beyond the Basics:
At Lola Montez, we believe that exploring new sensations with your partner should be an exciting journey, not a confusing one. We recently received a wonderful enquiry from a couple looking to dive into the world of strap-ons, grinders, and wearable toys.
Because we know many of you have the same questions, we’ve put together this guide to help you navigate size, functionality, and finding the right gear for your unique connection.
1. Navigating Size and Proportions
When partners are different sizes, it’s common to feel unsure about what “fits.” The most important thing to remember is that the toy doesn’t need to match the wearer’s body size; it needs to match the receiver’s comfort level. Here are some basics and a Guide to Exploring Toys for Women-Seeking-Women:
- For the Wearer: Look for harnesses with high adjustability. A “one size fits most” harness with multiple adjustment points (waist and leg loops) ensures that even if you are smaller than your partner, the toy remains stable and flush against your body.
- For the Receiver: Start with a “slim” or “tapered” dildo. Length is often less intimidating than girth. A dildo with a 1.25″ to 1.5″ diameter is a standard starting point.
- The “Dual-Fit” Solution: If you plan on switching roles, look for a harness with a universal O-ring system. This allows you to swap out different dildos of various sizes so you can both enjoy what feels best for your individual bodies.
2. Dual Pleasure: Stimulation for the Wearer
You shouldn’t have to choose between giving and receiving! The cheap and cheerful sites killing our business, finds you saw are likely strapless strap-ons or wearable vibrators. At Lola Montez, we prioritize body-safe materials (like medical-grade silicone) over the mystery plastics often found on discount sites.
- Strapless Options: These are “U-shaped” toys. One end is inserted into the wearer to hold it in place (providing internal fullness and G-spot stimulation), while the other end is used for the partner.
- Harness-Compatible Vibrators: If you prefer a traditional strap-on for stability, you can find “vibrating bullets” or “panty vibes” that slip into the harness or sit against the wearer’s clitoris. This gives the wearer direct, hands-free stimulation while they are in motion.
3. The “Grinder” (Thigh Pads)
The “grinder pads” mentioned are often referred to as Thigh Harnesses or Bumper Pads.
- The Thigh Harness: This is a strap that wraps around the upper thigh with a base for a toy. It’s perfect for “tribbing” or “scissoring” positions where you want to grind against a textured surface or a toy without the “depth” of a traditional waist harness.
- Textured Bumpers: Some harnesses come with a textured “feel-doe” or a bumper that sits between the toy and the wearer. These are designed to turn the friction of the movement into pleasure for the person wearing the toy.
4. Other Ideas for Your Journey
If you’re just starting to explore, here are three “pro-tips” to make the experience seamless:
- Invest in High-Quality Lube: This is non-negotiable! For silicone toys, always use a water-based lubricant to keep the material smooth and safe.
- Try a “Wand” Together: Before jumping straight into strap-on play, use a high-powered wand vibrator during manual play. It’s a great way to build intimacy and understand each other’s vibration preferences.
- Communication is the Best Toy: Set a “check-in” word. Exploring new gear can be funny, clumsy, and exciting all at once. Being able to laugh and adjust together is what makes it special.
Looking for something specific? We are constantly updating our curated collection to ensure we offer only the best in body-safe, high-performance pleasure products. Reach out to our team for a personalized recommendation!